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How to Begin the Course in Miracles Lessons

What if you don’t know how to meditate or to still your mind?  I know how this is, when I first started doing A Course in Miracles, back in 1989, I had no idea how to meditate.  I only knew that I needed help, I was anxious, depressed and the Course lessons told me what to do, so I followed the instructions.

  • You need motivation:  I wanted peace, I wanted to be free of fear, so the motivation was already in place.  I was seriously in need of peace because I had been depressed for six months and nothing was helping.
  • How much time was required?  Five minutes in the morning, and five minutes at night.  No big time investment here…and yet, within a few months, I was feeling much happier and much less depressed and very confident that I could do this Course.

How to begin to practice A Course In Miracles Lessons:

  1. So, first, just read the lesson, it’s okay if you don’t understand it.  Really.  It’s not important at this stage.
  2. Follow the instructions, do the mind searching for 5 minutes.
  3. Write down the title of the lesson and take it with you on a sticky note or card to repeat throughout the day. Your subconscious mind will hear it every time you repeat the thought to yourself.   This is how you change your mind, one day at a time, one thought at a time.

 

The Course itself is undoing your thought patterns that create fear, anxiety and depression.  It will work if you spend the five to ten minutes per day. Also, as with learning an instrument, the more you practice, the better the results.  So, within a few months I spent probably more than the 10 minutes per day.  I had a lot of motivation, since depression and anxiety were so prevalent in my experience.

As a musician I knew that a few minutes of practice each day became exponential over time and that a scale I couldn’t play yesterday, after working on it for a little while, the next day I could master it without a problem. How?  It is how your brain learns.

Within a few months, I experience changes within myself, I was calmer, I had more hope, more lightness in my mind.  This gave me more confidence and ignited my personal desire to do the Course, I liked how I felt and I liked knowing that my life had a purpose and a structure to it.

Key:  Repetition makes reinforcement.  Results encourage more practice. 

The key to happiness is simply repeating these thoughts that retrain your mind to think differently.  When you begin to feel better, you will have more motivation.  Yes, keep it up and don’t get discouraged if you aren’t completely fearless right away.

Key: This is a universal course in the awakening of your mind that is designed to save you time. 

It’s all laid out for you, you just have to repeat the lesson to yourself…each one can be your personal mantra for the day.  Just try it and see how you feel.

To find out more on how to get additional support with this process, check out the Healing Sessions page as well as the ACIM Classes page.

More to come on this subject.

 

 

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20 Ways to Get Through a Breakup

In the midst of a breakup, you can get very confused, or you can use this list of ways to get through it.  This is a way to speed up your awakening and healing from relationships.  Forgiveness is key now but it might feel impossible to you.  That is totally understandable.

My husband announced two weeks ago that he didn’t want to live with me any more.  I have found myself in shock, anger, guilt, rage, fear, frustration and dismay.  Here is how I am getting through it.  It is working for me and helping me to move quickly into joy even in the midst of this painful situation.

  1. Stay focused on you.  Don’t focus on the partner and what he or she did to you. Let them be.  You have no control over them, but you do have control over your mind and how you handle this situation.
  2. Make a list of things you have to take care of now.  It could be to find a place to live, to work (if you work at home), organize a move, decide what possessions you want to keep.  Don’t worry about this too much, you can always replace stuff.
  3. Be very focused on your mental state.  Do the lessons of the Course, read Chapter 17 The Holy Relationship.  We use our relationships to heal and to awaken from the dream of separation.  Use this as an opportunity to get serious and be persistent on your path.
  4. Read one lesson per day, or read the first 50 lessons from A Course in Miracles in short form (reviews) every day. I like the reviews because it can be done in 20 minutes.
  5. Allow the emotions to surface, but don’t wallow in them.  You can read and repeat the key lessons like “There is nothing my holiness cannot do.  I am as God created me.  There is nothing to fear. “
  6. Breathe deeply and use this meditation to release emotions and the tendency to blame.  Panic will not help right now, when it comes up, do this quick 25 minute healing to release the emotional states.  Resentment is not going to help you right now, but it will come up and this will help to let it go quickly.
  7. Ask for help.  Many supportive friends and family will come to your aid, people you never thought would be so caring.  Allow them to help you right now because you need them and it alleviates the loneliness and fear. You are supported by God right now and your friends and family want to help you.
  8. Go within.  Write down all that you are feeling and focus on what you want now  .  Don’t listen to everyone and their opinions, this will just confuse you. Don’t let other people’s breakups or stories influence you.
  9. Write down the “old story”, this what you have been living regarding your self, partner, career, finances, and home.  Now burn it.  Now write down the “new story”, aim high and imagine what you want right now in all these aspects.  This will help to let go of the past and move on quickly and stay focused on YOU, and what you really want now.  Read it over and over every day.
  10. Pray each day for guidance and to be shown that you are loved and taken care of. The universe loves you and is giving you this opportunity to speed up your process of awakening.  Allow the guidance and the freedom from fear that it brings each moment.
  11. The blessing in this situation is:  There is always a blessing for you in a crisis…write it down.  This keeps you focused on what you are grateful for, allowing for more appreciation.   Read it over every morning.
  12. Focus on your abilities and strengths. This helps when the critical judging thoughts come in that eat away at your self-esteem.
  13. Don’t allow the judgments and self-criticism.  Write down all your wonderful qualities and things you have achieved in your life.
  14. Keep an open heart and mind.  When you close down and feel the pain, know that it is changing.  It is important to feel the emotions but know that you are not your emotions and feelings. You can stay open to receive more healing and more grace.
  15. Stay hydrated.  Don’t reach for alcohol or coffee right now…I know its tempting, but it brings your body into stress and your emotions will be harder to calm down.  Drink tons of water!
  16. Exercise.  This really keeps the stress out of your body.  Go for a run or walk every morning for at least 30 minutes. It helps to know you care about yourself right now.  Take care of the body and the mind.
  17. Take a break from your location.  Book a trip and give yourself time to slow down and go within.  I am going to a part of the country I love for 5 days and seeing my two grown boys. I can feel how much I need this right now.
  18. Try this worksheet from Byron Katie for self-examination. A simple four step process to let go of your painful thoughts.
  19. Don’t project all your thoughts onto your partner.  Let them go for now.  Be steady and look at your own mind.  Remember, self responsibility is key.
  20. Give yourself a break, its time to list all the things you love and and remember what brings you joy and do at least 3 of those things each day.

When life choices seem daunting in the midst of chaos, know that there are no mistakes.  You will make choices and then learn from them. Honor your progress and your path right now.  You want freedom and this is giving it to you in ways you cannot fathom right now.

Although the pain will surface, feel it and use it to free you today.  It is helping you to become more compassionate toward yourself and others. Stay humble. Focus on this moment right now.  Not next week, not next year.  RIGHT NOW…it is the only time there is and it is where your healing resides.


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If you’ve never done the Course, Start Here

If you have never done the Course in Miracles mind training, start here.  This is what you need to do to begin:

  1. Get a copy of the Course in Miracles book, or read it online  You must have a copy, or read the original Urtext version at http://courseinmiracles.com.  The Workbook is the mind training, the Text outlines the basic principles.  It’s all included in one book which you can get at  Amazon.com or Barnes and Noble.
  2. Read the first 50 lessons, one per day. Don’t skip them, don’t jump around,  just read them one per day, and do as it instructs and move onto the next the following day.
  3. How long does it take?  This takes about 5 – 10 minutes in the morning and again before you go to sleep.  Nothing will occur if you don’t make a commitment to this time requirement. Gradually, more time is asked but it is up to you how much time you devote to this.
  4. Notice what changes.  Do you feel different during or after reading the lesson?  Notice how you feel after four weeks, see what changed for you or how you feel about yourself.  Perhaps you aren’t as easy to be angered, or are less inclined to judge others.  Miracles happen all the time with or without your awareness of them

Common Barriers and Pitfalls

When you begin a new course, there will be certain pitfalls that tempt you to give up too soon and quit before you realize the goal.  You might encounter great resistance, yet if you just continue, it won’t matter, even if you actively resist the ideas presented in the lessons. Reasons to stop might include:

  • I don’t understand what I’m reading.   It’s OK if you don’t “get it”. The Workbook is brilliantly designed to take you from one idea to the next, which is an important systematic approach for the human mind.  Don’t try to understand everything at first. The lessons are not working with your intellect, but with your “right brain”, or the part of your mind that is visual and intuitive, and does not analyze. It experiences, feels and receives information without judgment.  The change of mind occurs in spite of your need to “figure it out”.
  • I don’t have time, I’m too distracted.  OK. So, just do the lesson and search your mind as it directs you to do.  Don’t worry if you feel you aren’t getting it.  It will work anyway.
  • My mind has incessant fear thoughts, I am constantly worried.  All the more reason to do this mind training, to retrain your brain to think differently.  Fear is not actually real, you are making it up.  YOU CAN STOP.
  • I don’t understand today’s lesson.  No problem, I didn’t understand them either when I began.  This is because the lesson is so different from how you think now. Do it anyway.
  • Am I being brainwashed?  The ideas presented I don’t agree with.  That’s fine. You aren’t supposed to agree or disagree, just do the lesson.  Do you want to be free of fear?  Do you know how to get there?  If so, you would be free of fear right now and would not need this mind training.
  • I can’t meditate.  This is not a problem.  The Course is aimed at saving you time, you don’t have to meditate at all.  Just do the lesson and see how you feel. Notice what you notice and see if any change occurs within you.
  • What is a miracle anyway?  A miracle is a shift or change in your perception, a correction of erroneous thinking.  Read the first chapter of the Text, the 50 miracle principles for a description of miracles.
  • I want to just jump around and read whatever grabs me.  Fine but you will not progress with ease.  The lessons are systematically designed for minds like you that can’t follow simple instructions and want to do it your way.  It won’t work for you.  If you were learning an instrument, you would learn to read a few notes before you went on to a major scale.  Then after you master the scale, you go on to the minor scales.  So, don’t try to be your own teacher, you will fail.
  • I don’t think this is for me.  Who else is it for?  You have the book in your hand. It is a sure sign that it IS for you. What do you have to lose?
  • Why is it in Christian terminology? The author is Jesus.  He has written this Course for you to clear up misunderstandings and misinterpretations that have gone down through the last 2000 years.  Jesus is the guide and other Masters were involved, or so it seems.
  • Do I have to believe in the author?  No.  This is not about belief, it is about wanting to become free of fear, guilt and pain.  Then you will find yourself in a totally different state of mind, without knowing how it happened.
  • Can I become enlightened, truly free of fear forever?.  Yes, if that is your desire, you have all power, so you will be undone and the Divine Love of the universe will free you. But you have to do your part.  No one can do it for you.
  • Do I have free will?  Absolutely.  This is a Course that opens up your creative powers and frees you to become fearless, guiltless, doubtless and perfectly happy. You will find out who you really are, which is freedom itself.
  • What is the goal anyway?  The goal of the Course is peace, deep abiding, perfect peace.  This is not understandable to the human mind.  So, your doubts are part of what needs to be undone.

 


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How a breakup can free you

You may have moments in your awakening where someone has let you down and you aren’t able to get beyond the feeling of disappointment, sadness or pain. I just went through this with a business partner and found myself wondering what happened, did I do something to bring about this occurrence? Is it a good change? And where am I responsible for it?

The self-responsibility statement from A Course in Miracles is clear: I am responsible for what I see, I choose the feelings I experience, and I decide upon the goal I would achieve. And everything that seems to happen to me I ask for and receive as I have asked.

This leaves absolutely no room for victimization. I know that the only way out of negative emotion is always to accept responsibility for the situation and my own feelings associated with it. I often have to write them down to find out what I am really feeling and perhaps have buried. When I reveal to myself the hidden feelings, I can then ask for help with their release, but until I look at them and identify the truth within me about them, I won’t feel released. I need help in that moment. And the Holy Spirit or healer within cannot relieve me of something I am unwilling to look at honestly.

Forgiveness is letting something come to the surface, looking at it and allowing it to be released for you. Then, you only have to be willing to let go of your perception. It’s OK to be wrong. Especially if you are unhappy.

So in this situation, I had to look at my expectation that I had put on my partner and really ask myself if it was reasonable that she meet that. Was she capable of meeting it, even though she may have intended to, did she really have the motivation within her to do so. It became clear that I was hoping that she did have the motivation, but in reality, she wasn’t showing me that she did. When I felt this happening, I confronted her with it and then let it go. I know I have no control over what someone else wants or chooses. I simply have to be clear about my intention and my desire. But how that plays out is beyond my control.

Now when I was able to forgive this, and let her be exactly where she is, and let myself be forgiven for having an expectation, I could allow a new door to open, let a new opportunity for a change occur. It’s important to surrender to the greater good for all concerned. But it wasn’t that easy.

In journaling this, I had to admit I was having misgivings and frustration with the partnership and wasn’t able to cut it off immediately. I found myself doing too much for her and letting her be helpless and dependent upon me. This became increasingly frustrating and I realized I could not trust her to do her part. So, in effect I had let the situation go on too long, by my need to help her get her act together. And then I found it intolerable.

I first had to confront this within myself, and see where I had allowed this manipulation to occur. When I could see my part in it, that I had agreed to take on this role with her, I then made a decision to stop. This finally was the catalyst for the change and the confrontation.

Now, I can better focus on my priorities and my goals and have increased energy and determination to move ahead. My support has to come from within me and from my Creator. He knows how to heal me, and release me from my tendencies to let someone manipulate me. And my own expectation came from feeling I wanted to have a partnership, when in truth, I am too independent for that. I know who I am and want to express it freely. In truth, I want to be released from relying on others inappropriately. Or, as many women do, feeling the need to be depended upon…we get this from mothering, partnering and being in constant service to the world around us.

Yet in this situation and many others, I have found that the real answer is that I am free to be independent and must be if I am to be happy. My independence, however, means I am relying upon my Creator, my higher self, my savior and the light of truth to shine through me. This will reveal the love behind every encounter that feels like pain, disappointment and conflict.

Only appreciation is an appropriate response to my brother. This statement from the Course challenges me to accept everything exactly as it is and to let go of my expectation. This frees me and my brother and sister in this dream of ever unfolding life and the journey back to LOVE itself.

I hope this helps you today.

Monica


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Laughing at Fear

I just put together a bunch of new blog topics and this was at the top of my list. I wanted to share with you how easy it can be to release fear. The Course gives this line as the entire reason for the dream of separation or the descent into hell: “you had a tiny, mad idea at which the Son of God remembered not to laugh.”

Remembered not, or forgot. Remembered not, which means you, the Son, remembered what did not happen. You remember the fall, the schism, the pain of loss, the moment where pain replaced joy and the kingdom was a forgotten memory. This is really important so I have to emphasize what you remembered not…that you remembered not to laugh!

You remembered only to take it seriously and to believe it and judge yourself for it and harp on it and make it all a real experience. And then you felt so guilty, you projected the guilt out away from you onto the only thing you could find, your body. And then other bodies you found around you, Adam blames Eve for the fall because she is the only one there. Then you became so afraid that God would punish you, so you punished yourself for this so called act.

All the while, you kept the little secret to yourself that you feel so guilty about and you keep it hidden so far down inside you, you would feel just terrible if anyone ever found out. This is what drives people to sedate all the time! Yet, when you uncover the whole reason you feel so bad about yourself, you feel the incredible pain of the guilt and self-hatred you subconsciously harbor within yourself…then something can begin to open up. You have simply had enough of it. Deep resentment, deep shame and guilt. It is time to surrender.

So, for however long you have been trying to hide and not resolve your guilt, by projecting it, stop now. Take the pain back to its source, your own mind. And finally allow the solution to occur within you. Resolve the riddle of yourself as a separate being and realize one thing: It isn’t true, you are not guilty because the dream had no real effects.

The guilt of suffering and pain lasts until you just expose the cause and let it all go! A miracle occurs, a shift in perception. A realization, a remembering of the love you once knew as your communication with your Creator. You forgot to laugh, you thought He had abandoned you. No, dear one, He didn’t. He is right there inside you and always has been.

Now, what can possibly be so important and serious? I know you took it very seriously, sure, so did I. But every error is undone in exactly the same way: the love and light shines on your idea of separation, and lightens it to the point where it disappears into the nothingness from which it came.

Isn’t it time, right here and now to begin to laugh at yourself? It was a tiny, mad idea, it had no effects. God did not do it to you, you did not do it to you. You can laugh now. It was a crazy idea that has no possibility of being true and never did. It is futile to continue to think you have to resolve an unreal problem. That is why awakening is a recognition, not a change at all.

This attack upon yourself is old and tired and never brought you any relief whatsoever. It isn’t hard to let it all go, it is the easiest thing in the world, it is the relinquishment of the underpinnings of your dream. It is your awakening.

The simplicity of this idea strikes me each time I feel the release that comes with the “aha!” I was doing it to myself all along and I can stop right here and now!

Love is all around you, within you, and IS YOU. You are not ever going to be able to be anything but YOU. Laugh at the idea you could change a perfect, whole idea in the Mind of God!

Monica


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The End of Suffering

You are as God created you, and so is every living thing you look upon, regardless of the images you see.

This sentence from Chapter 31, The Final Vision, states that what you behold as sickness, pain, weakness, suffering and loss “is but temptation to perceive yourself defenseless and in hell. Yield not to this, and you will see all pain, in every form, wherever it occurs but disappear as mists before the sun. A miracle has come to heal God’s Son, and close the door upon his dreams of weakness, opening the way to his salvation and release.”

So the miracle occurs when you ask for it, and you get on your knees and ask to see it all differently, and your misperceptions are healed. The miracle happens because the entire dream is made up by you, and if that is not acceptable to you right now, fine. But know that ultimately, you will accept it, because not to is too painful.

Staying a victim of a world of perception is not really a wonderful or even viable option. It will become too painful to hold onto this idea, because victimization is not happy, it doesn’t work. Accepting responsibility for the thoughts you are thinking is the only way out. Pain releases when you ask for help and accept the help given. The world of love and light opens up in response to your call.

I know because it happened to me.

I was in a state of total despair and depression, and once I started doing the lessons, my entire being changed from darkness to exiliration and fearlessness. Over time, the whole purpose of my life changed from a selfish pursuit of the things of the world, to come alive and to awaken and become totally free, mentally and emotionally and spiritually.

In the act of relinquishment, my ideas of suffering were all burned up and taken from me by the grace of the light all around me, the Christ Mind. It is what I am and what you are, so it is inevitable that you will accept it at some point.

Don’t be discouraged if you have been at this for a long time and still feel pain. I know how that is, but I also know that it is a trick of ego mind to think you have to wallow around in it. You do have choice.

You always have the power of decision at your disposal.

The question then becomes, when? When will you choose to become free, fearless, in a state of love and harmony, knowing who you are, extending that light into the world. When? When you have had enough suffering I suppose.

This does require that you take time to do the mind training, that you spend time in prayer, that you serve your brother, that you give of yourself ceaselessly. Because that is the key to happiness, giving constantly to awaken and help other to do the same. A spiritual focus is imperative to a happy, fulfilled life. Your purpose is to awaken and free your mind if you decide that it is. And why not? Misery and death do not exist. God has already saved you from your little nightmare.

Nothing is accomplished by an untrained, undisciplined mind. Peace does come when all need for conflict is given up. When this happens can be determined by you. How much do you want peace? How much energy are you willing to devote to it?

Repeat this prayer in times of temptation to believe in your suffering:

I am as God created me.
His Son can suffer nothing.
And I AM His Son.


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Why have faith?

Man is a faithful animal, but what does he put his faith in?

Faith means that in spite of the situation you are in and the doubts you are thinking, and the fears you harbor, you have a belief that there is a bigger thing going on. I want to energize this some more because without faith, there is only the current reality which usually means it lacks something. Health, wealth, happiness, enlightenment, freedom from fear, maybe it just isn’t there right now.

The desire for something not seen is important because if you never desired a different experience, you would stay where you are right now, and your current reality may not be satisfying you. It all depends upon your perception of where you find yourself. And if that is okay with you, you have no more need to expand or grow, then great. But if you do want to experience more joy, more love and more freedom of mind, then you have to be willing to have faith that it is possible.

Yet is faith only a wish for a future outcome? When Jesus healed the woman who touched his garment, he said, “by your faith are you healed”. It seems to me he was praising her for believing in him and in his God-given power of healing. Faith healing is a powerful thing and happens all the time. It could happen at any moment, even to you! The fact is that she believed it was possible, certain even, so she was healed.

Faith is a belief in something possible that is not currently in your experience. It is the idea that first of all, you don’t see everything, you’re little eyes are myopic and your ears don’t hear the truth, they are distracted by the sounds of the world. So you don’t have the big picture, but you may have faith that there is a divine plan, that everything is possible, that miracles are possible.

All possibilities means that you have all power to decide what you want, and if you believe it, and have total faith in it, it has to occur. Why? Because you are a creator. You have the power to decide what you want to experience. Nothing can deny you, except what? You’re own disbelief, your own doubt. It kills faith and it kills your dream of awakening to perfect peace and happiness, if you don’t believe that it is possible.

No one can stop you from thinking thoughts of lack or doubt. Indeed, that is the crux of the problem you have had for a very long time. No one can deny you the thoughts you are making up and you always, always get the result of them every time.

So, faith is important and without it you’re dead, or alone, or suffering some kind of lack. Faith energizes the idea that all possibilities exist, because in God, all things are possible. Your knowing that all is well and your confidence that things are working out and only good can come to you, is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

A happy person brings light and blessings to everyone she meets. An unhappy person brings you down. When someone lacks faith in God or in the idea that something will work out, then there isn’t much hope for them. And of course they get the result, nothing good does come to them. Again, it is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

The thing to remember is that the power of your mind is always presenting you with the outcome of the thoughts you are thinking. Period. You always can decide to see it differently because you do have all power to change your mind and therefore your experience.

So faith in God, in goodness, in love and in the fact that there are light beings all around you encouraging you to make the choice for more love, for forgiveness, for healing, for giving to others, for putting their happiness before yours, is required. The requirement is that you be willing to entertain the possibility of a divine plan, which means you do get to have and be all that you desire. Because you already are, whether you know it or not.

But if you still want something, be clear about your desire, think about it, focus on it, and well, even if it doesn’t happen right away, don’t give up! Happiness doesn’t come from doubt or disappointment.

It will come after you have released all your doubt, all your resistance to these good experiences coming to you and to your friends too. Faith is knowing it is possible for only good to come and expecting the miracle, the correction of falsity, of your doubt. It is also about not knowing how and not worrying about the specifics of the outcome, and still being willing to allow it to occur. Simply accept that God has a better plan than you. Accept your part in His plan and take no other. And stop trying to tell Him how to make it happen. When I simply let God show me what I am to do today, where I am to go, what I am to say and to whom, I am free. Life simply unfolds perfectly without my resistance. So, even if you are in pain, don’t resist it. Just be there, be present and surrender.

Faith in God, the Creator of the Universe, at the very least, will bring you hope rather than doubt. It feels better in the moment that you think: I know it’s possible. I don’t know how it will work out, but I believe it will. Get excited about it! Your happiness is coming to you right now in ways you can’t even imagine.

When I think I am not where I want to be, I suffer. When I accept that its all perfect and I am in the right place at the right time, I feel great! Everything is working out in spite of me. Happiness is not earned, it is recognized and accepted. You could be happy right now if you would just decide to be, even if you’re depressed, be totally depressed. Allow it to bring you to the bottom, the crux of the problem, which is you.

Be grateful that it already did work out. See it, feel it, allow yourself to revel in the idea. The fix is in. The fact is that you are whole and perfect as God created you. All your pitiful doubts and denial ever did was keep you in fear. Haven’t you had enough? It is exhausting to be in competition with God, especially since God has already saved you from your dream of death. When will you accept it? When will you awaken to the idea that it is accomplished?

The Course is very clear on this, that your whole problem is that you never question the reality of your problem. You insist on it and never experience that it has already been resolved for you. Have faith, faith that it is possible because if you did, just for an instant, you would be free.

“Only say the word, and I will be healed!”

Blessings,
Monica