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7 Steps to Finding Great Love

What is great love?  Do you want it, do you have it?  Do you feel you have missed the boat or that you are seeking and not finding it?  Guess what?  You may be looking in the wrong place.

What if you were absolutely certain that love was not something to find, but already resides within and you felt it every day and every moment?   You were certain of the security of love, of the constant abiding love that you are?  Would your life be different? You bet it would.  This is not a theory, but a practice that requires your attention and dedication.

I always thought if I found the right partner, I would have someone to share my life with and then would be happy.  So I kept looking for the right one and married three times.  I don’t regret any of it, believe me.

My biggest lesson has been to realize that love isn’t something to seek.  I have been through the loss of partners and lost custody of children, lost my teacher, both parents, my sister when I was 4, and they all taught me the same lesson:  I am the thing I seek.

How did I learn this?  The hard way, through lots of experience of loving and losing and then finally discovering the secret to the universe.

What helps me the most?

  1. Meditation and mind training – Most of the time we just react to things that happen, but when you put yourself first and meditate, you find that your mind can change. Your thoughts are the problem, and the release of them is the solution. A Course in Miracles is a proven method, if you start with one lesson per day, it is guaranteed to change you. 5 minutes per day to a new you?  How hard is that?
  2. Find your light – The big revelation comes when you open to the possibility that your problem has already been solved. You may not know this yet, but the Master Jesus taught us this important lesson:  You are the light of the world, you have all power, and you can accomplish anything you choose.  You know it to be true when you ask to be healed of the deep subconscious pain of being separate.
  3. Know you cannot lose it – if you find love within yourself, you cannot ever lose it, because it isn’t apart from you.  This brings immense freedom and joy.
  4. Realize your life is eternal – Life isn’t of time, it isn’t going to end, the you that thinks you are separate is the problem, but when you get to the bottom of your pain, it will finally vanish, freeing you from the idea that you could ever be alone, lost, or in need of anything. But you have to go to the depths of your denial to become free from this state of mind.  Ask yourself every day:  who am I?
  5. Embrace change and free the fear – I know it seems hard to embrace the unknown, but really?  If what you know has brought you suffering, loss and death, then what have you got to lose by embracing the unknown…what if it opens up your heart and mind to a new experience of you?
  6. Decide for peace – if conflict can be given up by your decision to see your situation differently, then why wait to make this choice?  Try Lesson 15, The Power of Decision is My Own.  I can decide to forgive, to free myself of the guilt of the past.  The past is over anyway.  You maintain it in your mind in thought, but you can stop.  The miracle occurs when you decide you would rather be at peace.
  7. Give! Give so much that nothing else matters. It is selfish, because it makes you totally happy.  Think of someone else today, free him of the bondage of needing something by giving and learning that you are never lacking anything.  Your brother is you and is waiting for your freedom to be free himself. Lesson 137 states:  When you are healed, you are not healed alone. 

Hope this helps you today!

Monica

 

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How to create your new life in 8 steps

OK, so when life throws a big challenge your way, such as a break up of a marriage, (which is just what I went through in the past two months), there are some things to do to keep your head above water.

After my husband announced he wanted to split up, I went through very intense emotions and then realized I simply had to accept this challenge.  How?  Well, this is what is helping the most:

  1. Focus on me.  Be clear about what I want, because my life’s goals are not dependent upon anyone else.  Period.  I was amazed at this, because the relationship seemed to be important to me and I was so centered on being together.
  2. Let go of trying to make anything work.  Stay in the moment and allow the rug to be pulled out from under me so much that I would not be able to land in any familiar territory.  Use the experience to grow!
  3. When anger and indignation arise, allow it, and feel it totally.  Then ask for help to see it differently. The ego mind wants to justify its pain, but you deserve better.
  4. Watch my thoughts and pay attention to the voice inside my head.  I have the mind training of the Course in Miracles deeply embedded in my mind and every lesson helps me.  Always and in all circumstances.  Here’s an important one:  I can give up this world I see, (my perception of it), by giving up attack thoughts. Letting my attack thoughts go made me see that I need love now, and attack thoughts do not feel like love.
  5. Ask for help from absolutely everyone I know.  I told them the truth and what happened was so miraculous.  I got money, a place to live, and moved to my home state within 6 weeks. This was not my plan, but once I arrived, I began to realize that I feel absolutely myself here.  The familiar setting, the lakes, the ocean, the mountains and especially the familiar faces all soothe my soul.
  6. Keep open to new ideas and possibilities. I still don’t have work, but I feel confident that I will be led to the exact right place where I can be most helpful.  I don’t know what that looks like yet, so I focus on the feeling of being useful and happy with the work I am doing.  Everyone around me has some great ideas and each one is something I will stay open to and explore.
  7. Keep the faith that God is perfectly seeing me through every aspect of this change. I am taking time off from a very busy life and finally getting some down time.  This is important to let myself heal, to give myself time to open up and allow my beliefs about my life, who I am, and what I want to shift right now.  I don’t have to have the answers.  They come one day at a time.
  8. Follow my heart and trust.  Ask for the guidance to come through in obvious ways so I don’t miss anything.  I visualize myself really happy and then notice what I’m doing.  Happiness is a state of mind and I can feel that at any given moment.  It isn’t about what I am doing, it is about me accepting and loving myself right now exactly as I am. Even with all my insecurities and uncertainties.

Hope this helps you as much as it is me right now!

Monica


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4 Reasons to Forgive

If you are harboring resentments with someone, which you probably are, even without consciously being aware of it, you need to go within yourself and ask:  Is it worth it?  Does hanging onto this really help me?

The past is over and yet your body is a memory machine, your subconscious mind remembers everything that hurt you, until you reveal these hurts to yourself by allowing the memory to come into awareness. Beneath the surface could be the root of a pattern that has been troubling you for a long time.  Only when you allow it into your conscious mind can it be healed.  What you keep hidden cannot be healed, simply because it is hidden.  From yourself.

So, for instance, I recently remembered something very significant from my past that was traumatic for me during adolescence.  As I looked at it, I saw that it had affected every relationship I had with a male since then.  It made sense then, that my pain came from me, from my memory of the event and that in the revealing of it, I was able to make another choice.  I could choose to heal this event, to forgive the perpetrator, even for something so egregious as molestation.

I had not consciously ever looked at how this affected my life until now, while I am undergoing a breakup.  The pain was triggered by the breakup of a marriage, and when I allowed it into my memory, I realized how much that event had affected me throughout my life.  Then came the realization that I didn’t have to let this continue.

What truly astonished me was how I had buried it and dismissed it as insignificant, until this moment. I have been on a healing path for many years and this horrendous occurrence had finally come into the present moment for healing!

So, here are four reasons to forgive:

  1. You will discover something about yourself you need to know, that you may not be aware of until this moment.
  2. You allow the buried emotions are caused by your memory, so taking responsibility for the memory, not the event, allows for true permanent healing.
  3. In the revealing of the memory, you open up to the possibility of release forever from the event.  Then the pattern stops.
  4. If you don’t do it, you keep the pattern going.  So, what have you got to lose?  Just painful memories from the past that keep haunting you.

Freedom from the past is worth every bit of pain you have to go through. Otherwise, you will continue to be affected by the past subconsciously and it will color every relationship you have.  I have found that it is  time to love myself and give myself the gift of healing, so that I don’t have to repeat these painful memories again.  It is a gift of love to myself.

It is easy to release the cause of your pain, once it is staring at you and you can see it all clearly for the first time.  You will be given the opportunity to  forgive any time you feel the twinge of anger, the need to judge someone, the desire to hate, or to get revenge.

The path of least resistance is to accept that growth and healing is inevitable.  You do want freedom from pain, and it makes sense then to allow it to occur.

Don’t resist evil.  Don’t resist pain, don’t resist!  Don’t judge yourself for having learned this way, the experience of healing is worth it.

Now it is obvious to me why every major spiritual teaching is based upon this one thing: forgiveness.  IT WORKS if you work it.


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20 Ways to Get Through a Breakup

In the midst of a breakup, you can get very confused, or you can use this list of ways to get through it.  This is a way to speed up your awakening and healing from relationships.  Forgiveness is key now but it might feel impossible to you.  That is totally understandable.

My husband announced two weeks ago that he didn’t want to live with me any more.  I have found myself in shock, anger, guilt, rage, fear, frustration and dismay.  Here is how I am getting through it.  It is working for me and helping me to move quickly into joy even in the midst of this painful situation.

  1. Stay focused on you.  Don’t focus on the partner and what he or she did to you. Let them be.  You have no control over them, but you do have control over your mind and how you handle this situation.
  2. Make a list of things you have to take care of now.  It could be to find a place to live, to work (if you work at home), organize a move, decide what possessions you want to keep.  Don’t worry about this too much, you can always replace stuff.
  3. Be very focused on your mental state.  Do the lessons of the Course, read Chapter 17 The Holy Relationship.  We use our relationships to heal and to awaken from the dream of separation.  Use this as an opportunity to get serious and be persistent on your path.
  4. Read one lesson per day, or read the first 50 lessons from A Course in Miracles in short form (reviews) every day. I like the reviews because it can be done in 20 minutes.
  5. Allow the emotions to surface, but don’t wallow in them.  You can read and repeat the key lessons like “There is nothing my holiness cannot do.  I am as God created me.  There is nothing to fear. “
  6. Breathe deeply and use this meditation to release emotions and the tendency to blame.  Panic will not help right now, when it comes up, do this quick 25 minute healing to release the emotional states.  Resentment is not going to help you right now, but it will come up and this will help to let it go quickly.
  7. Ask for help.  Many supportive friends and family will come to your aid, people you never thought would be so caring.  Allow them to help you right now because you need them and it alleviates the loneliness and fear. You are supported by God right now and your friends and family want to help you.
  8. Go within.  Write down all that you are feeling and focus on what you want now  .  Don’t listen to everyone and their opinions, this will just confuse you. Don’t let other people’s breakups or stories influence you.
  9. Write down the “old story”, this what you have been living regarding your self, partner, career, finances, and home.  Now burn it.  Now write down the “new story”, aim high and imagine what you want right now in all these aspects.  This will help to let go of the past and move on quickly and stay focused on YOU, and what you really want now.  Read it over and over every day.
  10. Pray each day for guidance and to be shown that you are loved and taken care of. The universe loves you and is giving you this opportunity to speed up your process of awakening.  Allow the guidance and the freedom from fear that it brings each moment.
  11. The blessing in this situation is:  There is always a blessing for you in a crisis…write it down.  This keeps you focused on what you are grateful for, allowing for more appreciation.   Read it over every morning.
  12. Focus on your abilities and strengths. This helps when the critical judging thoughts come in that eat away at your self-esteem.
  13. Don’t allow the judgments and self-criticism.  Write down all your wonderful qualities and things you have achieved in your life.
  14. Keep an open heart and mind.  When you close down and feel the pain, know that it is changing.  It is important to feel the emotions but know that you are not your emotions and feelings. You can stay open to receive more healing and more grace.
  15. Stay hydrated.  Don’t reach for alcohol or coffee right now…I know its tempting, but it brings your body into stress and your emotions will be harder to calm down.  Drink tons of water!
  16. Exercise.  This really keeps the stress out of your body.  Go for a run or walk every morning for at least 30 minutes. It helps to know you care about yourself right now.  Take care of the body and the mind.
  17. Take a break from your location.  Book a trip and give yourself time to slow down and go within.  I am going to a part of the country I love for 5 days and seeing my two grown boys. I can feel how much I need this right now.
  18. Try this worksheet from Byron Katie for self-examination. A simple four step process to let go of your painful thoughts.
  19. Don’t project all your thoughts onto your partner.  Let them go for now.  Be steady and look at your own mind.  Remember, self responsibility is key.
  20. Give yourself a break, its time to list all the things you love and and remember what brings you joy and do at least 3 of those things each day.

When life choices seem daunting in the midst of chaos, know that there are no mistakes.  You will make choices and then learn from them. Honor your progress and your path right now.  You want freedom and this is giving it to you in ways you cannot fathom right now.

Although the pain will surface, feel it and use it to free you today.  It is helping you to become more compassionate toward yourself and others. Stay humble. Focus on this moment right now.  Not next week, not next year.  RIGHT NOW…it is the only time there is and it is where your healing resides.


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Do you need a spiritual teacher?

The spiritual path is fraught with pitfalls and challenges. I found myself unable to manage these trappings at certain points along the way. I heard the voice within showing me the way to go, but there were moments of deep uncertainty and confusion. The Kingdom is within you, but if you are in a state of conflict at times and need some help, it is imperative that you find someone to guide you who has been there and has found the way out of fear. Your path is unique to you and there are blind spots. It can save you some time and wasted energy, the clarity of a Master is undeniably helpful.

Years ago, I found one teacher of the Course who I stayed with for four years. She had been awakened by a Master and I didn’t really know anything about her history. I didn’t ask for credentials, all I know is I needed help and she showed up to guide me through some very difficult years of my early development. She could see through the darkness for me, shine a light where I was unable to on my own. I was given the help I needed when I needed it.

During that time, I made some important decisions: I was a young mother and I had a lot going on and my spiritual life was moving in a direction of awakening that felt often too much too fast. But, with her guidance, I felt assured that I was on track and that it was good that my life became more meditative and focused on my connection to God.

The holy relationship with this teacher became a focus for my spiritual development. Letting myself be led by Jesus and this teacher was essential to my development. There were many moments of fear and doubt and this was alleviated knowing I had that phone call each week to look forward to, to check in and allow her light to guide me. Energy healing, direction and palpable light filled me each time and I was very, very grateful for her help.

After a few years, I felt something new begin inside me, I felt a lot of new energies coming in that felt very exciting. I felt more of a support coming, and I felt the need for a change yet didn’t know what it was about really.

Then I watched a video of the Master Teacher who was living in Wisconsin. I had never heard of him before and yet I felt an openness to just watch the video. I didn’t recognize him physically, he didn’t look at all like I thought a teacher should…I am not sure what I had in mind.

After watching the video, the next thing I experienced was undeniable. I felt all this energy well up inside me, a new powerful energy and light. Then I had to lie down as I felt myself go out of the Earth plane for a while. It surprised me how amazing that felt and my whole being changed, it was emotional and freeing and very different. The light was an unmistakable new freedom from within me.

From that day on, I knew that he was my teacher and deep within me, there was a recognition that I knew him very well. It was like meeting a very dear close relative that you have been missing for a long time, and finally seeing them and knowing that you know them, but you don’t really know how or from when. My intuition told me to pay attention.

For the next few months I watched the videos and felt an amazing sense of inner freedom and light. Over the next 10 years, I would spend every morning at the feet of the Master. I made a decision to allow myself to be led, to be guided, coached and cajoled into the life of the spiritual disciple. It was tumultuous, confrontational, and I am so filled with gratitude that I found him. Even now I am filled with love as I think about his unceasing give, showing up every day for me, for all those who were his students. And the love for the message of A Course in Miracles deepened, broadened and changed me.

I needed the support of the group, of those dedicated to forgiveness, to awakening and to the Course. I cannot imagine where or what I would be without that experience of living in a dedicated atmosphere, of being led so closely in contact with a teacher and with others who were with me. There was no idolization allowed, as we were always told to look within ourselves, to find the solution where it is. I always knew I had to work out my own awakening from deep within myself.

Teachers are important, as they know and can see things you can’t within you that you need help with. Don’t resist it. Life is full of challenges and sometimes you can’t get yourself through them and if you have the chance to be with a Master, you will grow from it. Some people fear that if you have a teacher, you could lose yourself, yet all you can lose is the fear of the love of God. The Master points you to yourself, seek and ye shall find. Stay in the openness, keep knocking and the door will be opened unto you.

God’s Will for you is to be happy, free, certain of who you are, and when you are willing,He will take you home. If you will to be happy, free of doubt, free of fear and perfectly joyful and at peace, know that this is YOUR will. A teacher can point you to it, but cannot do it for you. Keep in mind, this path is not for the faint-hearted or the one who wants it to be easy and fun. It isn’t always blissful to awaken, it means getting to the bottom of your pain, your fear and your memories of loss and letting them be converted. From darkness to light.

Every Master in the Eastern tradition had a Master before him/her in the lineage. It is in this holy relationship that each student finds out what true love is, what awakening really means. In Christ consciousness, we use Jesus directly, and yet there may come a time when being with an awakened teacher will be helpful for you. To guide you along this path, the inner path to the Christ, many shadow figures will arise. Forgiveness is sometimes impossible when you are faced with deep pain.

My gratitude for my teacher is beyond words and beyond my own assessment of the help I constantly receive from Him. I use many teachers now in addition to Jesus and Master Teacher: Yogananda, Robert Adams, Ramana Maharshi, Amma, Mother Mary, are among the most often called upon. Awakened masters are always available and willing to help guide you. Stay in contact with them and they will never fail you. Read, meditate and ponder their messages of eternal life and love and peace.

You will know when your teacher appears, it will be obvious. Be open to be changed from deep within your being, don’t resist. Don’t resist good, don’t resist evil. Don’t resist!

Help is just around the corner. I hope this helps you today.

Monica


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Love your “enemies”: How to forgive

I found myself in a quandary recently with a friend who accused me of something I felt I did not do. I asked for help and my guide showed me how to use a firehose to send a blast of love to her. Here is how it works: I open the top of my head, allow the light and love to flow down through into my heart center. Give it a moment to feel it, experience it. Allow the energy to radiate into my head, neck shoulders upper back, front of heart and blast it from my heart into that person’s heart center.

Give it a few minutes. It is just a reminder of who she is that is being given as I do this. It is real. Don’t underestimate the power of love! It can heal anything, a disease, a false idea, an egoic identity that has turned from the light. It is the most powerful thing in the universe. When a dark shadow appears, when someone attacks you, it is imperative to know that love must be given and extended, because it is what releases the stuck energy that is denying it.

In truth, there are no “enemies”, but there are those that challenge us to either love or hate, to judge or have compassion. I have been there, I know what it feels like to be caught in the victim mind. We all have and are not proud of how much time we have spent there. But we do have the power of choice and must exercise it.

Darkness is a problem that is based upon the choice not to know the truth. That is all, and the truth is that love is what you are. Many beings haven’t chosen to know who they are, which is fine until it is directed at you and you feel the pain of it. Now what? Jesus is very clear in the Course, “forgive and you will see this differently”. But sometimes we don’t know how to forgive. That’s OK, because he does and he will help you remember.

My job and yours (should you choose to accept it) is to free the mind of darkness. The dark mind is my mind! The egoic identity is always selfish and self-seeking which is not really extending anything. It has no real power, its just turned in upon itself and is stuck in an idea. Yet, it isn’t fun and when you are in it, you do need help to get out of it. A simple choice to free yourself and your “friend” who has turned on you is all you need. The light does the rest. But it is work and to apply this truth, it takes focus and you have to put your attention on love, on the idea that you come from a loving God and that He knows how to extend through you.

Do it and see how easy it is.

So try the above exercise. See how it works for you. Do it 5 times a day if you want. Find those who you have difficulty with and free them right now. You are never alone, all thoughts have power. And you will find that the more you extend love to those who challenge you, the more love you will experience. You can’t make anyone do anything or accept anything they are unwilling to accept. That is not your job. Your job is to experience it yourself and send it whenever a challenge or a “call for love” comes into your awareness. You have nothing to say about their acceptance. They will do it now or later, it is inevitable because “the tolerance for pain is high but not without limit”.

Love your enemies, bless those that persecute you, do good to them who spitefully use you...this is the commandment of our Savior and during this time of Christmas, isn’t it time we all took it seriously? Love heals all and you are never alone. You have guides, angels, ascended Masters at your side. Use them! Free yourself and love all today. What if everyone on the planet did this today? Imagine what your holiness can do!

Merry Christmas!


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Merry Christmas

Let us join in celebrating peace .  Let no despair darken the joy of Christmas, for the time of Christ is meaningless apart from joy.  What can be more joyous than to perceive we are deprived of nothing?  Such is the message of the time of Christ, which I give you that you may give it.  For in the time of Christ communication is restored, and He joins us in the celebration of His Son’s creation.

We but celebrate His wholeness as we welcome Him into ourselves.  So will the year begin in joy and freedom.  There is much to do, and we have been long delayed.  Accept the holy instant as this year is born, and take your place, so long left unfulfilled, in the Great Awakening.

This is truly a time of rebirth.  2013 is a year of transition into Oneness of love.  Indeed there is nothing else. 

Love and blessings!