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7 Steps to Release Your Past

This should be the easiest exercise in letting go of the past that I have found. It really works.

I have found this quick exercise to be very powerful.

Click here:  Heal Your Mind Heal Your Life

I posted this on my new website and am finding that it really works on those days when I feel a bit low, and once I do it, I’m free again.

Just take a moment to do it, and you will be transformed.

What better use of your time to release all the pain of the past!

If you have any questions or comments, let me know!

Enjoy!

Love and blessings,
Monica Dubay

 

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How to wake up to the Real You using A Course in Miracles

Do you want to change your life but you don’t know where to start?

DO you find you cannot make sense of your life and no matter what you do, you still are afraid?

You just might  want  to try A Course in Miracles.

Who does it and will it help me?
People come to the Course from all religions and no religion. It doesn’t matter what your past beliefs or convictions are, because it is always giving you an alternative to your past experience. You will most likely love it, hate it, deny it and run from it. Doing these simple lessons will lead show you your fear and then relieve you of it.

Relinquish your fear now.
Transformation is a fundamental relinquishment of your ideas of God, yourself, time, space, bodies, good, evil, sickness, pain, birth and death. The entire dream of duality is made up by you and it isn’t true, none of it. Reality is ONE, beyond the ideas of good and evil. The dualistic dream of good versus evil is a made up story that has been going on for a very long time and when you don’t want it any more, the alternative shows up.
Because you have all power, the power of choice, you can decide to see this differently.

If you can begin by forgiving yourself for dreaming the dream, you will make great progress.
You don’t have to believe what the Course says, because as a separate identity, you don’t. So you will probably not come into the “range of teachability” that you need until something drastic or painful happens. You cannot get out of hell or a state of separation from God until you recognize that you are in hell to begin with.
You won’t let your beliefs go until you know what they are and that they are impeding your progress toward total happiness. Ask yourself: are you willing to let your beliefs be challenged and your thought system changed?

On a very fundamental level your beliefs in this separate existence are confronted by love.

Love is all there is, yet is it what you experience moment to moment, each day? No? Of course not, because you do not know who you are. You are asleep.

What is Ego?

A self-constructed human condition of limited consciousness which constitutes you as a closed thought system. It is totally unreal, and has no power over the Real You whatsoever.
What is enlightenment?
Enlightenment is an experience, not a doctrine. Light and clarity comes into your mind when you open up to a new experience of yourself and surrender the conflict of your self-constructed false identity. The more you do this, the more release becomes natural to you. The experience of true eternal peace is beyond your idea of peace. It isn’t dull or boring, it is full of passionate love and joy. There is absolutely nothing you can bring to this except your willingness to be undone.
Enlightenment is a fierce undoing.

It requires courage, persistence, dedication, fearlessness, and the willingness to look at all aspects of your dark ideas. You made them up and you maintain them. If you don’t like your dark dream, admit it. You cannot awaken if you don’t ask for help and if you aren’t experiencing peace, it is because you have not invited into your experience.
You are using your power to be at the effect of your dark dream, the separate you a state of darkness.

This dark dream gives you the experience of separation because it is a result of the incessant fear thoughts that you entertain.
The fact that you are not aware of your real thoughts, God’s thoughts, namely the lessons of the Course, is because you assume a false position. You assume that you are a victim of the world you see. This is evidenced in this crucial lesson which corrects the victim role you falsely maintain. It states, I am not a victim of the world I see.
How to get out of the dream of death?
The mind training and miracles or corrections of the thought patterns does everything for you. Your inner guidance will take over and bring you into this new realm of truth and love. Just be open, have faith and be willing to have a new experience. Allow for something greater to occur within your mind, something you haven’t conceived of and cannot fathom.

God is greater than your idea of Him.
The Course offers a daily lesson that reminds you that your present state of total happiness is beyond your concepts. It is found within you because that is where God placed it. Your denial of this fact, of this perfect YOU, has put you in fear. Fear of death, fear of life, fear of yourself and of your brothers and sisters.

Yet, the final fear is of the love of God.

It is the height of insanity to fear your Creator, wouldn’t you agree? This fear has no effect. God still loves you no matter what your fears tell you. He knows not of your dream. He already gave you the Answer.

Forgive and you will see this differently.
What will it take to finally accept the fact that love is what you are? I don’t know. It all depends on you, your nightmare, your particular stories you tell yourself and whether you are sick and tired of them.
Anyone can awaken if they decide they want to above all else. It is completely natural to awaken from a dream, especially a nightmare of separation and loss and death.
The introduction states that “free will does not mean that you can establish the curriculum. It means only that you can elect what you want to take at a given time. Nothing real can be threatened. Nothing unreal exists. Herein lies the peace of God.”
I love you and know you as myself.

Monica


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7 Steps to Finding Great Love

What is great love?  Do you want it, do you have it?  Do you feel you have missed the boat or that you are seeking and not finding it?  Guess what?  You may be looking in the wrong place.

What if you were absolutely certain that love was not something to find, but already resides within and you felt it every day and every moment?   You were certain of the security of love, of the constant abiding love that you are?  Would your life be different? You bet it would.  This is not a theory, but a practice that requires your attention and dedication.

I always thought if I found the right partner, I would have someone to share my life with and then would be happy.  So I kept looking for the right one and married three times.  I don’t regret any of it, believe me.

My biggest lesson has been to realize that love isn’t something to seek.  I have been through the loss of partners and lost custody of children, lost my teacher, both parents, my sister when I was 4, and they all taught me the same lesson:  I am the thing I seek.

How did I learn this?  The hard way, through lots of experience of loving and losing and then finally discovering the secret to the universe.

What helps me the most?

  1. Meditation and mind training – Most of the time we just react to things that happen, but when you put yourself first and meditate, you find that your mind can change. Your thoughts are the problem, and the release of them is the solution. A Course in Miracles is a proven method, if you start with one lesson per day, it is guaranteed to change you. 5 minutes per day to a new you?  How hard is that?
  2. Find your light – The big revelation comes when you open to the possibility that your problem has already been solved. You may not know this yet, but the Master Jesus taught us this important lesson:  You are the light of the world, you have all power, and you can accomplish anything you choose.  You know it to be true when you ask to be healed of the deep subconscious pain of being separate.
  3. Know you cannot lose it – if you find love within yourself, you cannot ever lose it, because it isn’t apart from you.  This brings immense freedom and joy.
  4. Realize your life is eternal – Life isn’t of time, it isn’t going to end, the you that thinks you are separate is the problem, but when you get to the bottom of your pain, it will finally vanish, freeing you from the idea that you could ever be alone, lost, or in need of anything. But you have to go to the depths of your denial to become free from this state of mind.  Ask yourself every day:  who am I?
  5. Embrace change and free the fear – I know it seems hard to embrace the unknown, but really?  If what you know has brought you suffering, loss and death, then what have you got to lose by embracing the unknown…what if it opens up your heart and mind to a new experience of you?
  6. Decide for peace – if conflict can be given up by your decision to see your situation differently, then why wait to make this choice?  Try Lesson 15, The Power of Decision is My Own.  I can decide to forgive, to free myself of the guilt of the past.  The past is over anyway.  You maintain it in your mind in thought, but you can stop.  The miracle occurs when you decide you would rather be at peace.
  7. Give! Give so much that nothing else matters. It is selfish, because it makes you totally happy.  Think of someone else today, free him of the bondage of needing something by giving and learning that you are never lacking anything.  Your brother is you and is waiting for your freedom to be free himself. Lesson 137 states:  When you are healed, you are not healed alone. 

Hope this helps you today!

Monica

 


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How to create your new life in 8 steps

OK, so when life throws a big challenge your way, such as a break up of a marriage, (which is just what I went through in the past two months), there are some things to do to keep your head above water.

After my husband announced he wanted to split up, I went through very intense emotions and then realized I simply had to accept this challenge.  How?  Well, this is what is helping the most:

  1. Focus on me.  Be clear about what I want, because my life’s goals are not dependent upon anyone else.  Period.  I was amazed at this, because the relationship seemed to be important to me and I was so centered on being together.
  2. Let go of trying to make anything work.  Stay in the moment and allow the rug to be pulled out from under me so much that I would not be able to land in any familiar territory.  Use the experience to grow!
  3. When anger and indignation arise, allow it, and feel it totally.  Then ask for help to see it differently. The ego mind wants to justify its pain, but you deserve better.
  4. Watch my thoughts and pay attention to the voice inside my head.  I have the mind training of the Course in Miracles deeply embedded in my mind and every lesson helps me.  Always and in all circumstances.  Here’s an important one:  I can give up this world I see, (my perception of it), by giving up attack thoughts. Letting my attack thoughts go made me see that I need love now, and attack thoughts do not feel like love.
  5. Ask for help from absolutely everyone I know.  I told them the truth and what happened was so miraculous.  I got money, a place to live, and moved to my home state within 6 weeks. This was not my plan, but once I arrived, I began to realize that I feel absolutely myself here.  The familiar setting, the lakes, the ocean, the mountains and especially the familiar faces all soothe my soul.
  6. Keep open to new ideas and possibilities. I still don’t have work, but I feel confident that I will be led to the exact right place where I can be most helpful.  I don’t know what that looks like yet, so I focus on the feeling of being useful and happy with the work I am doing.  Everyone around me has some great ideas and each one is something I will stay open to and explore.
  7. Keep the faith that God is perfectly seeing me through every aspect of this change. I am taking time off from a very busy life and finally getting some down time.  This is important to let myself heal, to give myself time to open up and allow my beliefs about my life, who I am, and what I want to shift right now.  I don’t have to have the answers.  They come one day at a time.
  8. Follow my heart and trust.  Ask for the guidance to come through in obvious ways so I don’t miss anything.  I visualize myself really happy and then notice what I’m doing.  Happiness is a state of mind and I can feel that at any given moment.  It isn’t about what I am doing, it is about me accepting and loving myself right now exactly as I am. Even with all my insecurities and uncertainties.

Hope this helps you as much as it is me right now!

Monica


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4 Reasons to Forgive

If you are harboring resentments with someone, which you probably are, even without consciously being aware of it, you need to go within yourself and ask:  Is it worth it?  Does hanging onto this really help me?

The past is over and yet your body is a memory machine, your subconscious mind remembers everything that hurt you, until you reveal these hurts to yourself by allowing the memory to come into awareness. Beneath the surface could be the root of a pattern that has been troubling you for a long time.  Only when you allow it into your conscious mind can it be healed.  What you keep hidden cannot be healed, simply because it is hidden.  From yourself.

So, for instance, I recently remembered something very significant from my past that was traumatic for me during adolescence.  As I looked at it, I saw that it had affected every relationship I had with a male since then.  It made sense then, that my pain came from me, from my memory of the event and that in the revealing of it, I was able to make another choice.  I could choose to heal this event, to forgive the perpetrator, even for something so egregious as molestation.

I had not consciously ever looked at how this affected my life until now, while I am undergoing a breakup.  The pain was triggered by the breakup of a marriage, and when I allowed it into my memory, I realized how much that event had affected me throughout my life.  Then came the realization that I didn’t have to let this continue.

What truly astonished me was how I had buried it and dismissed it as insignificant, until this moment. I have been on a healing path for many years and this horrendous occurrence had finally come into the present moment for healing!

So, here are four reasons to forgive:

  1. You will discover something about yourself you need to know, that you may not be aware of until this moment.
  2. You allow the buried emotions are caused by your memory, so taking responsibility for the memory, not the event, allows for true permanent healing.
  3. In the revealing of the memory, you open up to the possibility of release forever from the event.  Then the pattern stops.
  4. If you don’t do it, you keep the pattern going.  So, what have you got to lose?  Just painful memories from the past that keep haunting you.

Freedom from the past is worth every bit of pain you have to go through. Otherwise, you will continue to be affected by the past subconsciously and it will color every relationship you have.  I have found that it is  time to love myself and give myself the gift of healing, so that I don’t have to repeat these painful memories again.  It is a gift of love to myself.

It is easy to release the cause of your pain, once it is staring at you and you can see it all clearly for the first time.  You will be given the opportunity to  forgive any time you feel the twinge of anger, the need to judge someone, the desire to hate, or to get revenge.

The path of least resistance is to accept that growth and healing is inevitable.  You do want freedom from pain, and it makes sense then to allow it to occur.

Don’t resist evil.  Don’t resist pain, don’t resist!  Don’t judge yourself for having learned this way, the experience of healing is worth it.

Now it is obvious to me why every major spiritual teaching is based upon this one thing: forgiveness.  IT WORKS if you work it.


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8 Things you need to know to free your victim role

When someone betrays you, or doesn’t fulfill his or her promise to you or completely lets you down it’s very easy to feel abandoned, unloved, and confused.

You may feel angry, shocked, disbelieving that this could happen to you, you wonder how you were blind and couldn’t see the motivations of the person who harmed you.  You realize you were not in control of the situation and were prey to someone’s ulterior motive, which was not to love you.

You have a choice before you:  victim or creator.  This fact can free you to heal from this and see that can learn something.  You can allow for the feelings while accepting that you are growing from this and can embrace it as part of this growth process.

The pain of these mind states can overwhelm you, yet it is essential if you are to become free of them that you consider these ideas:

  1. You are not in control of what other people choose to do. Don’t take it personally that they have made a choice to let you down. Its not even about you.
  2. Taking full responsibility for your thoughts about it is critical to your awakening.  Remember, all thoughts have power.
  3. Your thoughts of victimization keep you in pain and do not allow for release of this pain. Therefore, do not accept it.  There is no power in victimization, you have given it away to the victimizer.
  4. You must accept responsibility, maybe not for what has occurred, but for the feelings which arise from it.  This distinction will clarify that you cannot control what happened, but you can control how you respond to it.
  5. Take the focus off the other guy entirely.  Let him be.  Just focus on the part you played within the situation, and accept that you can learn from it and move on.
  6. Becoming more aware of the blocks that keep you from accepting yourself as whole and perfect is a good thing, even if you can’t see that it is helping you yet.
  7. Harping on what happened only keeps you in pain.  Don’t tell everyone you meet, just allow that you need to stop telling the story, and get some rest from the idea that you need to justify your feelings of victimization.
  8. Own the vulnerable you that experienced this and give it more love.  Be a parent to yourself for a moment and let the child in you experience it while you extend love to her.

You will discover that, in spite of all that seems to be happening, you are coming into greater knowledge of yourself.  You are in control of the outcome, you can use this to free you from the nightmare of separation.  This can trigger deep abandonment and you can use it to accept that you can never be truly abandoned by God.

 


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20 Ways to Get Through a Breakup

In the midst of a breakup, you can get very confused, or you can use this list of ways to get through it.  This is a way to speed up your awakening and healing from relationships.  Forgiveness is key now but it might feel impossible to you.  That is totally understandable.

My husband announced two weeks ago that he didn’t want to live with me any more.  I have found myself in shock, anger, guilt, rage, fear, frustration and dismay.  Here is how I am getting through it.  It is working for me and helping me to move quickly into joy even in the midst of this painful situation.

  1. Stay focused on you.  Don’t focus on the partner and what he or she did to you. Let them be.  You have no control over them, but you do have control over your mind and how you handle this situation.
  2. Make a list of things you have to take care of now.  It could be to find a place to live, to work (if you work at home), organize a move, decide what possessions you want to keep.  Don’t worry about this too much, you can always replace stuff.
  3. Be very focused on your mental state.  Do the lessons of the Course, read Chapter 17 The Holy Relationship.  We use our relationships to heal and to awaken from the dream of separation.  Use this as an opportunity to get serious and be persistent on your path.
  4. Read one lesson per day, or read the first 50 lessons from A Course in Miracles in short form (reviews) every day. I like the reviews because it can be done in 20 minutes.
  5. Allow the emotions to surface, but don’t wallow in them.  You can read and repeat the key lessons like “There is nothing my holiness cannot do.  I am as God created me.  There is nothing to fear. “
  6. Breathe deeply and use this meditation to release emotions and the tendency to blame.  Panic will not help right now, when it comes up, do this quick 25 minute healing to release the emotional states.  Resentment is not going to help you right now, but it will come up and this will help to let it go quickly.
  7. Ask for help.  Many supportive friends and family will come to your aid, people you never thought would be so caring.  Allow them to help you right now because you need them and it alleviates the loneliness and fear. You are supported by God right now and your friends and family want to help you.
  8. Go within.  Write down all that you are feeling and focus on what you want now  .  Don’t listen to everyone and their opinions, this will just confuse you. Don’t let other people’s breakups or stories influence you.
  9. Write down the “old story”, this what you have been living regarding your self, partner, career, finances, and home.  Now burn it.  Now write down the “new story”, aim high and imagine what you want right now in all these aspects.  This will help to let go of the past and move on quickly and stay focused on YOU, and what you really want now.  Read it over and over every day.
  10. Pray each day for guidance and to be shown that you are loved and taken care of. The universe loves you and is giving you this opportunity to speed up your process of awakening.  Allow the guidance and the freedom from fear that it brings each moment.
  11. The blessing in this situation is:  There is always a blessing for you in a crisis…write it down.  This keeps you focused on what you are grateful for, allowing for more appreciation.   Read it over every morning.
  12. Focus on your abilities and strengths. This helps when the critical judging thoughts come in that eat away at your self-esteem.
  13. Don’t allow the judgments and self-criticism.  Write down all your wonderful qualities and things you have achieved in your life.
  14. Keep an open heart and mind.  When you close down and feel the pain, know that it is changing.  It is important to feel the emotions but know that you are not your emotions and feelings. You can stay open to receive more healing and more grace.
  15. Stay hydrated.  Don’t reach for alcohol or coffee right now…I know its tempting, but it brings your body into stress and your emotions will be harder to calm down.  Drink tons of water!
  16. Exercise.  This really keeps the stress out of your body.  Go for a run or walk every morning for at least 30 minutes. It helps to know you care about yourself right now.  Take care of the body and the mind.
  17. Take a break from your location.  Book a trip and give yourself time to slow down and go within.  I am going to a part of the country I love for 5 days and seeing my two grown boys. I can feel how much I need this right now.
  18. Try this worksheet from Byron Katie for self-examination. A simple four step process to let go of your painful thoughts.
  19. Don’t project all your thoughts onto your partner.  Let them go for now.  Be steady and look at your own mind.  Remember, self responsibility is key.
  20. Give yourself a break, its time to list all the things you love and and remember what brings you joy and do at least 3 of those things each day.

When life choices seem daunting in the midst of chaos, know that there are no mistakes.  You will make choices and then learn from them. Honor your progress and your path right now.  You want freedom and this is giving it to you in ways you cannot fathom right now.

Although the pain will surface, feel it and use it to free you today.  It is helping you to become more compassionate toward yourself and others. Stay humble. Focus on this moment right now.  Not next week, not next year.  RIGHT NOW…it is the only time there is and it is where your healing resides.