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7 Steps to Use Faith to Change Your Life

Do you hate it when people say: keep the faith?  Do you feel they are just being a Pollyanna? Keep the faith, yeah right.

I used to feel this way, how ridiculous, I thought.  They don’t know my story of how things didn’t work out the way I wanted.  How I am so unhappy because, well…you can fill in the blank. Lots of things don’t work the way I want them to.

Keep the faith? In what?  When I was depressed I truly couldn’t see what I was supposed to have faith in.

What does it mean to have faith, really?  I wanted proof.  I wanted to know that there is a reason to have faith.  In what? Not in something outside of me that will wave a magic wand and everything will be honky dory.  I’m not that silly.

So, if I’m honest, in my current life, something could be better.  I could have more abundance for instance.

What do I do? I get frustrated, then I use that to demand a change.

This happened just the other day, I lost my bank card and didn’t know it and was on my way home to Massachusetts from visiting my kids in NYC.  I went to buy gas and there was no card. Gone.  I looked everywhere in the car, the wallet, my pockets.  Nope, not there.

I asked the clerk if they would take a check, they said no.  I stood there, not knowing what to do.  I don’t use credit cards anymore, so I waited and just got quiet.  Finally the clerk personally gave me $10 and I wrote him a check.  I got back to my car and screamed…this is enough!  I have had enough of this!

Everything shifted within me.  Without that frustration, I would stay in fear and just accept the situation, whether I like it or not.  Do I like where I am?  No. Time to make a change.

How about you? Let’s get honest.  Is your current life satisfying you?  Yes or no?

How do you perceive yourself? Lacking? Doubtful? Frustrated?

Frustration can be used to bring you into a desire for something else. In that sense, it can be extremely useful.  It challenges you to grow, to expand…to make a change.

Do you want more joy, more freedom of mind, more money? You simply open to an idea that your life could be better.  Here’s the key: you don’t have to know how.

That’s where faith comes in. Yet is faith only a wish for an outcome?

When Jesus healed the woman who touched his garment, he said, “by your faith are you healed”. It seems to me he was praising her for believing in him and in his God-given power of healing. Faith healing is a powerful thing and could happen at any moment. The fact is that she knew it was possible, certain even, so she was healed.

So, faith is simply a belief in something possible that is not currently in your experience.

You accept, first of all, that you don’t see everything, your perception and your hearing are too narrow. You don’t have the big picture.

So you begin by having a little faith that there might be something better, that anything is possible.  Maybe if you have faith then miracles could happen, which are sudden shifts in perception within your own mind.

But where are you?  Do you doubt this?  Are you using the power of your mind to decide what you want, to have faith in it, and to allow it?

Here are 7 steps to use faith to change something:

  1. I make a decision to let this change first within me.
  2. I ask for what I desire to occur, (I’m very specific about what it is).
  3. I make sure I am not blocking or resisting it. If I feel resistance, I repeat “unblock”.
  4. I have faith that it is already happening in divine timing.
  5. I imagine what it feels like to have it happen.
  6. I give thanks for it being accomplished.
  7. I let go of any attachment to the outcome.

How does this work?

I first allow the change to take place inside, I change my belief about it.  I just decide I will allow it. (I am pretty good at this, it has been my whole life’s purpose to learn how to change beliefs).

I don’t resist change. It’s effortless because I’m not resisting. I let go so that the situation changes without my help.  I allow reality to be what it is.

As within, so without.  Everything is possible.  I don’t demand, I just ask, trust and let go.  I stay uncertain and notice the change that is occurring in me.  How do I feel about it now?

The outer reality reflects the inner…your mind affects your experience.  This is quantum thinking which simply means that cause and effect are not apart. You thoughts affect your experience in every moment. So use them to help you!

Because you are a creator, you have the power to decide what you want to experience.   But you have to allow it, to release your control and your concern over how or when it is happening or not.

What gets in the way?

Your own disbelief in the power of your mind.   In other words, your own doubt.  Doubt or faithlessness kills your dream of happiness.  “Umm maybe it won’t work”, you can hear yourself say. If you think it won’t, guess what?

Doubt is a killer.

No one can stop you from thinking thoughts of lack or doubt. No one can deny you the thoughts you are making up, because you have the power to think them.  The only question is, do you like the result?

So, when you kill faith by doubting, you suffer the consequences.  It has nothing to do with anyone else. You could stop doubting and trust.  Just think a different thought.

I trust in the power of my mind to heal and be healed.

Faith energizes the idea that all possibilities exist, because in truth, all things are possible.

If you trust that all is well and have confidence and faith that things are working out, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Say to yourself: I have faith that all things are working out for me. I trust in the benevolence of the Universe to bring me into greater happiness every day.  I am sustained by the love of God.

How does it feel to say this?

A faithful person brings light and blessings to everyone she meets. She feels energetic, calm, trusting in the power of life itself, to regenerate, to shift, change and expand.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be like a child who knows that love is what she is? Remember how simple life seemed then?  You were open to new things, you got excited with new ideas, new projects, and new friends.

So when you have faith in goodness and love, it becomes proof  that you feel better when you have faith.  Do it for this reason alone…it feels good.

You learn to simply allow life to unfold as it does.  You don’t argue with reality, you just allow it to be what it is.  You accept it, trust in it and live in the present moment. I know it seems crazy, but it works. I have proved it over and over again.

You do get to have and be all that you desire, because you already are, whether you know it or not.

Faith in a benevolent Universe, at the very least, will bring you hope rather than doubt. It feels better in the moment that you think these thoughts:  I know it’s possible. I don’t know how it will work out, but I believe it will. I’m excited about it!

Your happiness is coming to you right now in ways you can’t even imagine. Don’t block it with doubt.

When I think I am not where I want to be, I suffer. When I accept that I am in the right place at the right time, I feel great! So, even if it doesn’t turn out how I want, I’m happy.

Happiness is not earned, it is recognized and accepted. You could be happy right now if you would just decide to be.  Even if you’re depressed, love your depression, embrace it…be totally depressed. Allow it to bring you to the bottom, to the crux of the problem, which is always you, your thoughts, your perception.

The fix is in.

The problem is that you never question the reality of your problem. You insist on it and don’t experience that can be resolved. Have faith, faith that it is possible because if you did, just for an instant, you would have a new experience.

Your life would change and you would be amazed at how easily it worked.

Belief is powerful indeed.

Monica

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How to create your new life in 8 steps

OK, so when life throws a big challenge your way, such as a break up of a marriage, (which is just what I went through in the past two months), there are some things to do to keep your head above water.

After my husband announced he wanted to split up, I went through very intense emotions and then realized I simply had to accept this challenge.  How?  Well, this is what is helping the most:

  1. Focus on me.  Be clear about what I want, because my life’s goals are not dependent upon anyone else.  Period.  I was amazed at this, because the relationship seemed to be important to me and I was so centered on being together.
  2. Let go of trying to make anything work.  Stay in the moment and allow the rug to be pulled out from under me so much that I would not be able to land in any familiar territory.  Use the experience to grow!
  3. When anger and indignation arise, allow it, and feel it totally.  Then ask for help to see it differently. The ego mind wants to justify its pain, but you deserve better.
  4. Watch my thoughts and pay attention to the voice inside my head.  I have the mind training of the Course in Miracles deeply embedded in my mind and every lesson helps me.  Always and in all circumstances.  Here’s an important one:  I can give up this world I see, (my perception of it), by giving up attack thoughts. Letting my attack thoughts go made me see that I need love now, and attack thoughts do not feel like love.
  5. Ask for help from absolutely everyone I know.  I told them the truth and what happened was so miraculous.  I got money, a place to live, and moved to my home state within 6 weeks. This was not my plan, but once I arrived, I began to realize that I feel absolutely myself here.  The familiar setting, the lakes, the ocean, the mountains and especially the familiar faces all soothe my soul.
  6. Keep open to new ideas and possibilities. I still don’t have work, but I feel confident that I will be led to the exact right place where I can be most helpful.  I don’t know what that looks like yet, so I focus on the feeling of being useful and happy with the work I am doing.  Everyone around me has some great ideas and each one is something I will stay open to and explore.
  7. Keep the faith that God is perfectly seeing me through every aspect of this change. I am taking time off from a very busy life and finally getting some down time.  This is important to let myself heal, to give myself time to open up and allow my beliefs about my life, who I am, and what I want to shift right now.  I don’t have to have the answers.  They come one day at a time.
  8. Follow my heart and trust.  Ask for the guidance to come through in obvious ways so I don’t miss anything.  I visualize myself really happy and then notice what I’m doing.  Happiness is a state of mind and I can feel that at any given moment.  It isn’t about what I am doing, it is about me accepting and loving myself right now exactly as I am. Even with all my insecurities and uncertainties.

Hope this helps you as much as it is me right now!

Monica


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20 Ways to Get Through a Breakup

In the midst of a breakup, you can get very confused, or you can use this list of ways to get through it.  This is a way to speed up your awakening and healing from relationships.  Forgiveness is key now but it might feel impossible to you.  That is totally understandable.

My husband announced two weeks ago that he didn’t want to live with me any more.  I have found myself in shock, anger, guilt, rage, fear, frustration and dismay.  Here is how I am getting through it.  It is working for me and helping me to move quickly into joy even in the midst of this painful situation.

  1. Stay focused on you.  Don’t focus on the partner and what he or she did to you. Let them be.  You have no control over them, but you do have control over your mind and how you handle this situation.
  2. Make a list of things you have to take care of now.  It could be to find a place to live, to work (if you work at home), organize a move, decide what possessions you want to keep.  Don’t worry about this too much, you can always replace stuff.
  3. Be very focused on your mental state.  Do the lessons of the Course, read Chapter 17 The Holy Relationship.  We use our relationships to heal and to awaken from the dream of separation.  Use this as an opportunity to get serious and be persistent on your path.
  4. Read one lesson per day, or read the first 50 lessons from A Course in Miracles in short form (reviews) every day. I like the reviews because it can be done in 20 minutes.
  5. Allow the emotions to surface, but don’t wallow in them.  You can read and repeat the key lessons like “There is nothing my holiness cannot do.  I am as God created me.  There is nothing to fear. “
  6. Breathe deeply and use this meditation to release emotions and the tendency to blame.  Panic will not help right now, when it comes up, do this quick 25 minute healing to release the emotional states.  Resentment is not going to help you right now, but it will come up and this will help to let it go quickly.
  7. Ask for help.  Many supportive friends and family will come to your aid, people you never thought would be so caring.  Allow them to help you right now because you need them and it alleviates the loneliness and fear. You are supported by God right now and your friends and family want to help you.
  8. Go within.  Write down all that you are feeling and focus on what you want now  .  Don’t listen to everyone and their opinions, this will just confuse you. Don’t let other people’s breakups or stories influence you.
  9. Write down the “old story”, this what you have been living regarding your self, partner, career, finances, and home.  Now burn it.  Now write down the “new story”, aim high and imagine what you want right now in all these aspects.  This will help to let go of the past and move on quickly and stay focused on YOU, and what you really want now.  Read it over and over every day.
  10. Pray each day for guidance and to be shown that you are loved and taken care of. The universe loves you and is giving you this opportunity to speed up your process of awakening.  Allow the guidance and the freedom from fear that it brings each moment.
  11. The blessing in this situation is:  There is always a blessing for you in a crisis…write it down.  This keeps you focused on what you are grateful for, allowing for more appreciation.   Read it over every morning.
  12. Focus on your abilities and strengths. This helps when the critical judging thoughts come in that eat away at your self-esteem.
  13. Don’t allow the judgments and self-criticism.  Write down all your wonderful qualities and things you have achieved in your life.
  14. Keep an open heart and mind.  When you close down and feel the pain, know that it is changing.  It is important to feel the emotions but know that you are not your emotions and feelings. You can stay open to receive more healing and more grace.
  15. Stay hydrated.  Don’t reach for alcohol or coffee right now…I know its tempting, but it brings your body into stress and your emotions will be harder to calm down.  Drink tons of water!
  16. Exercise.  This really keeps the stress out of your body.  Go for a run or walk every morning for at least 30 minutes. It helps to know you care about yourself right now.  Take care of the body and the mind.
  17. Take a break from your location.  Book a trip and give yourself time to slow down and go within.  I am going to a part of the country I love for 5 days and seeing my two grown boys. I can feel how much I need this right now.
  18. Try this worksheet from Byron Katie for self-examination. A simple four step process to let go of your painful thoughts.
  19. Don’t project all your thoughts onto your partner.  Let them go for now.  Be steady and look at your own mind.  Remember, self responsibility is key.
  20. Give yourself a break, its time to list all the things you love and and remember what brings you joy and do at least 3 of those things each day.

When life choices seem daunting in the midst of chaos, know that there are no mistakes.  You will make choices and then learn from them. Honor your progress and your path right now.  You want freedom and this is giving it to you in ways you cannot fathom right now.

Although the pain will surface, feel it and use it to free you today.  It is helping you to become more compassionate toward yourself and others. Stay humble. Focus on this moment right now.  Not next week, not next year.  RIGHT NOW…it is the only time there is and it is where your healing resides.


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Why do you do the Course?

I wanted to ask my readers who they are and what they are looking for, if they read the Course, or not and why. Do you seek spiritual guidance on the net? Where do you usually find it?

I think that most people looking for spiritual guidance are like I was a few years back, 1990s to be exact. I remember feeling lost and confused, and seeking some help. I had been reading the Course for several years, even teaching it in small groups, but I wanted more, I wanted to connect and to know there were other people like me. I felt very alone most of the time and I didn’t feel that people around me were necessarily on a similar path. I needed a sense of community so that my experiences of spiritual growth could be shared.

I would like to alleviate some of that loneliness and start a community of like-minded people seeking true freedom.

I have been thinking that you, the reader may want to do a program such as the Course but are dismayed by the size of the book and want to understand the basic ideas behind it. You may be overwhelmed and not sure about how the Course could help you. Perhaps you have studied it for a while but feel that you need some deeper understanding of the principles and ideas.

Please respond with your answer to the following:

1. Why read a blog about A Course in Miracles? What are you looking for?
2. Do you do the lessons? If so, what is your ultimate goal in reading the lessons? If not, why not? Do they intimidate you in any way?
3. Would you be interested in a 12 week course on the Course?

I am deeply interested in you and want to open up a dialogue so that we can begin to help each other.

Please email me or comment below with your answers. I so appreciate it as this will help me to focus more on what you want from this masterpiece we call A Course in Miracles.

Monica
mondubay@gmail.com


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Laughing at Fear

I just put together a bunch of new blog topics and this was at the top of my list. I wanted to share with you how easy it can be to release fear. The Course gives this line as the entire reason for the dream of separation or the descent into hell: “you had a tiny, mad idea at which the Son of God remembered not to laugh.”

Remembered not, or forgot. Remembered not, which means you, the Son, remembered what did not happen. You remember the fall, the schism, the pain of loss, the moment where pain replaced joy and the kingdom was a forgotten memory. This is really important so I have to emphasize what you remembered not…that you remembered not to laugh!

You remembered only to take it seriously and to believe it and judge yourself for it and harp on it and make it all a real experience. And then you felt so guilty, you projected the guilt out away from you onto the only thing you could find, your body. And then other bodies you found around you, Adam blames Eve for the fall because she is the only one there. Then you became so afraid that God would punish you, so you punished yourself for this so called act.

All the while, you kept the little secret to yourself that you feel so guilty about and you keep it hidden so far down inside you, you would feel just terrible if anyone ever found out. This is what drives people to sedate all the time! Yet, when you uncover the whole reason you feel so bad about yourself, you feel the incredible pain of the guilt and self-hatred you subconsciously harbor within yourself…then something can begin to open up. You have simply had enough of it. Deep resentment, deep shame and guilt. It is time to surrender.

So, for however long you have been trying to hide and not resolve your guilt, by projecting it, stop now. Take the pain back to its source, your own mind. And finally allow the solution to occur within you. Resolve the riddle of yourself as a separate being and realize one thing: It isn’t true, you are not guilty because the dream had no real effects.

The guilt of suffering and pain lasts until you just expose the cause and let it all go! A miracle occurs, a shift in perception. A realization, a remembering of the love you once knew as your communication with your Creator. You forgot to laugh, you thought He had abandoned you. No, dear one, He didn’t. He is right there inside you and always has been.

Now, what can possibly be so important and serious? I know you took it very seriously, sure, so did I. But every error is undone in exactly the same way: the love and light shines on your idea of separation, and lightens it to the point where it disappears into the nothingness from which it came.

Isn’t it time, right here and now to begin to laugh at yourself? It was a tiny, mad idea, it had no effects. God did not do it to you, you did not do it to you. You can laugh now. It was a crazy idea that has no possibility of being true and never did. It is futile to continue to think you have to resolve an unreal problem. That is why awakening is a recognition, not a change at all.

This attack upon yourself is old and tired and never brought you any relief whatsoever. It isn’t hard to let it all go, it is the easiest thing in the world, it is the relinquishment of the underpinnings of your dream. It is your awakening.

The simplicity of this idea strikes me each time I feel the release that comes with the “aha!” I was doing it to myself all along and I can stop right here and now!

Love is all around you, within you, and IS YOU. You are not ever going to be able to be anything but YOU. Laugh at the idea you could change a perfect, whole idea in the Mind of God!

Monica


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Do you need a spiritual teacher?

The spiritual path is fraught with pitfalls and challenges. I found myself unable to manage these trappings at certain points along the way. I heard the voice within showing me the way to go, but there were moments of deep uncertainty and confusion. The Kingdom is within you, but if you are in a state of conflict at times and need some help, it is imperative that you find someone to guide you who has been there and has found the way out of fear. Your path is unique to you and there are blind spots. It can save you some time and wasted energy, the clarity of a Master is undeniably helpful.

Years ago, I found one teacher of the Course who I stayed with for four years. She had been awakened by a Master and I didn’t really know anything about her history. I didn’t ask for credentials, all I know is I needed help and she showed up to guide me through some very difficult years of my early development. She could see through the darkness for me, shine a light where I was unable to on my own. I was given the help I needed when I needed it.

During that time, I made some important decisions: I was a young mother and I had a lot going on and my spiritual life was moving in a direction of awakening that felt often too much too fast. But, with her guidance, I felt assured that I was on track and that it was good that my life became more meditative and focused on my connection to God.

The holy relationship with this teacher became a focus for my spiritual development. Letting myself be led by Jesus and this teacher was essential to my development. There were many moments of fear and doubt and this was alleviated knowing I had that phone call each week to look forward to, to check in and allow her light to guide me. Energy healing, direction and palpable light filled me each time and I was very, very grateful for her help.

After a few years, I felt something new begin inside me, I felt a lot of new energies coming in that felt very exciting. I felt more of a support coming, and I felt the need for a change yet didn’t know what it was about really.

Then I watched a video of the Master Teacher who was living in Wisconsin. I had never heard of him before and yet I felt an openness to just watch the video. I didn’t recognize him physically, he didn’t look at all like I thought a teacher should…I am not sure what I had in mind.

After watching the video, the next thing I experienced was undeniable. I felt all this energy well up inside me, a new powerful energy and light. Then I had to lie down as I felt myself go out of the Earth plane for a while. It surprised me how amazing that felt and my whole being changed, it was emotional and freeing and very different. The light was an unmistakable new freedom from within me.

From that day on, I knew that he was my teacher and deep within me, there was a recognition that I knew him very well. It was like meeting a very dear close relative that you have been missing for a long time, and finally seeing them and knowing that you know them, but you don’t really know how or from when. My intuition told me to pay attention.

For the next few months I watched the videos and felt an amazing sense of inner freedom and light. Over the next 10 years, I would spend every morning at the feet of the Master. I made a decision to allow myself to be led, to be guided, coached and cajoled into the life of the spiritual disciple. It was tumultuous, confrontational, and I am so filled with gratitude that I found him. Even now I am filled with love as I think about his unceasing give, showing up every day for me, for all those who were his students. And the love for the message of A Course in Miracles deepened, broadened and changed me.

I needed the support of the group, of those dedicated to forgiveness, to awakening and to the Course. I cannot imagine where or what I would be without that experience of living in a dedicated atmosphere, of being led so closely in contact with a teacher and with others who were with me. There was no idolization allowed, as we were always told to look within ourselves, to find the solution where it is. I always knew I had to work out my own awakening from deep within myself.

Teachers are important, as they know and can see things you can’t within you that you need help with. Don’t resist it. Life is full of challenges and sometimes you can’t get yourself through them and if you have the chance to be with a Master, you will grow from it. Some people fear that if you have a teacher, you could lose yourself, yet all you can lose is the fear of the love of God. The Master points you to yourself, seek and ye shall find. Stay in the openness, keep knocking and the door will be opened unto you.

God’s Will for you is to be happy, free, certain of who you are, and when you are willing,He will take you home. If you will to be happy, free of doubt, free of fear and perfectly joyful and at peace, know that this is YOUR will. A teacher can point you to it, but cannot do it for you. Keep in mind, this path is not for the faint-hearted or the one who wants it to be easy and fun. It isn’t always blissful to awaken, it means getting to the bottom of your pain, your fear and your memories of loss and letting them be converted. From darkness to light.

Every Master in the Eastern tradition had a Master before him/her in the lineage. It is in this holy relationship that each student finds out what true love is, what awakening really means. In Christ consciousness, we use Jesus directly, and yet there may come a time when being with an awakened teacher will be helpful for you. To guide you along this path, the inner path to the Christ, many shadow figures will arise. Forgiveness is sometimes impossible when you are faced with deep pain.

My gratitude for my teacher is beyond words and beyond my own assessment of the help I constantly receive from Him. I use many teachers now in addition to Jesus and Master Teacher: Yogananda, Robert Adams, Ramana Maharshi, Amma, Mother Mary, are among the most often called upon. Awakened masters are always available and willing to help guide you. Stay in contact with them and they will never fail you. Read, meditate and ponder their messages of eternal life and love and peace.

You will know when your teacher appears, it will be obvious. Be open to be changed from deep within your being, don’t resist. Don’t resist good, don’t resist evil. Don’t resist!

Help is just around the corner. I hope this helps you today.

Monica


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The End of Suffering

You are as God created you, and so is every living thing you look upon, regardless of the images you see.

This sentence from Chapter 31, The Final Vision, states that what you behold as sickness, pain, weakness, suffering and loss “is but temptation to perceive yourself defenseless and in hell. Yield not to this, and you will see all pain, in every form, wherever it occurs but disappear as mists before the sun. A miracle has come to heal God’s Son, and close the door upon his dreams of weakness, opening the way to his salvation and release.”

So the miracle occurs when you ask for it, and you get on your knees and ask to see it all differently, and your misperceptions are healed. The miracle happens because the entire dream is made up by you, and if that is not acceptable to you right now, fine. But know that ultimately, you will accept it, because not to is too painful.

Staying a victim of a world of perception is not really a wonderful or even viable option. It will become too painful to hold onto this idea, because victimization is not happy, it doesn’t work. Accepting responsibility for the thoughts you are thinking is the only way out. Pain releases when you ask for help and accept the help given. The world of love and light opens up in response to your call.

I know because it happened to me.

I was in a state of total despair and depression, and once I started doing the lessons, my entire being changed from darkness to exiliration and fearlessness. Over time, the whole purpose of my life changed from a selfish pursuit of the things of the world, to come alive and to awaken and become totally free, mentally and emotionally and spiritually.

In the act of relinquishment, my ideas of suffering were all burned up and taken from me by the grace of the light all around me, the Christ Mind. It is what I am and what you are, so it is inevitable that you will accept it at some point.

Don’t be discouraged if you have been at this for a long time and still feel pain. I know how that is, but I also know that it is a trick of ego mind to think you have to wallow around in it. You do have choice.

You always have the power of decision at your disposal.

The question then becomes, when? When will you choose to become free, fearless, in a state of love and harmony, knowing who you are, extending that light into the world. When? When you have had enough suffering I suppose.

This does require that you take time to do the mind training, that you spend time in prayer, that you serve your brother, that you give of yourself ceaselessly. Because that is the key to happiness, giving constantly to awaken and help other to do the same. A spiritual focus is imperative to a happy, fulfilled life. Your purpose is to awaken and free your mind if you decide that it is. And why not? Misery and death do not exist. God has already saved you from your little nightmare.

Nothing is accomplished by an untrained, undisciplined mind. Peace does come when all need for conflict is given up. When this happens can be determined by you. How much do you want peace? How much energy are you willing to devote to it?

Repeat this prayer in times of temptation to believe in your suffering:

I am as God created me.
His Son can suffer nothing.
And I AM His Son.