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Heal Your Mind, Transform Your Life – Through A Course in Miracles


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How to create your new life in 8 steps

OK, so when life throws a big challenge your way, such as a break up of a marriage, (which is just what I went through in the past two months), there are some things to do to keep your head above water.

After my husband announced he wanted to split up, I went through very intense emotions and then realized I simply had to accept this challenge.  How?  Well, this is what is helping the most:

  1. Focus on me.  Be clear about what I want, because my life’s goals are not dependent upon anyone else.  Period.  I was amazed at this, because the relationship seemed to be important to me and I was so centered on being together.
  2. Let go of trying to make anything work.  Stay in the moment and allow the rug to be pulled out from under me so much that I would not be able to land in any familiar territory.  Use the experience to grow!
  3. When anger and indignation arise, allow it, and feel it totally.  Then ask for help to see it differently. The ego mind wants to justify its pain, but you deserve better.
  4. Watch my thoughts and pay attention to the voice inside my head.  I have the mind training of the Course in Miracles deeply embedded in my mind and every lesson helps me.  Always and in all circumstances.  Here’s an important one:  I can give up this world I see, (my perception of it), by giving up attack thoughts. Letting my attack thoughts go made me see that I need love now, and attack thoughts do not feel like love.
  5. Ask for help from absolutely everyone I know.  I told them the truth and what happened was so miraculous.  I got money, a place to live, and moved to my home state within 6 weeks. This was not my plan, but once I arrived, I began to realize that I feel absolutely myself here.  The familiar setting, the lakes, the ocean, the mountains and especially the familiar faces all soothe my soul.
  6. Keep open to new ideas and possibilities. I still don’t have work, but I feel confident that I will be led to the exact right place where I can be most helpful.  I don’t know what that looks like yet, so I focus on the feeling of being useful and happy with the work I am doing.  Everyone around me has some great ideas and each one is something I will stay open to and explore.
  7. Keep the faith that God is perfectly seeing me through every aspect of this change. I am taking time off from a very busy life and finally getting some down time.  This is important to let myself heal, to give myself time to open up and allow my beliefs about my life, who I am, and what I want to shift right now.  I don’t have to have the answers.  They come one day at a time.
  8. Follow my heart and trust.  Ask for the guidance to come through in obvious ways so I don’t miss anything.  I visualize myself really happy and then notice what I’m doing.  Happiness is a state of mind and I can feel that at any given moment.  It isn’t about what I am doing, it is about me accepting and loving myself right now exactly as I am. Even with all my insecurities and uncertainties.

Hope this helps you as much as it is me right now!

Monica

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4 Reasons to Forgive

If you are harboring resentments with someone, which you probably are, even without consciously being aware of it, you need to go within yourself and ask:  Is it worth it?  Does hanging onto this really help me?

The past is over and yet your body is a memory machine, your subconscious mind remembers everything that hurt you, until you reveal these hurts to yourself by allowing the memory to come into awareness. Beneath the surface could be the root of a pattern that has been troubling you for a long time.  Only when you allow it into your conscious mind can it be healed.  What you keep hidden cannot be healed, simply because it is hidden.  From yourself.

So, for instance, I recently remembered something very significant from my past that was traumatic for me during adolescence.  As I looked at it, I saw that it had affected every relationship I had with a male since then.  It made sense then, that my pain came from me, from my memory of the event and that in the revealing of it, I was able to make another choice.  I could choose to heal this event, to forgive the perpetrator, even for something so egregious as molestation.

I had not consciously ever looked at how this affected my life until now, while I am undergoing a breakup.  The pain was triggered by the breakup of a marriage, and when I allowed it into my memory, I realized how much that event had affected me throughout my life.  Then came the realization that I didn’t have to let this continue.

What truly astonished me was how I had buried it and dismissed it as insignificant, until this moment. I have been on a healing path for many years and this horrendous occurrence had finally come into the present moment for healing!

So, here are four reasons to forgive:

  1. You will discover something about yourself you need to know, that you may not be aware of until this moment.
  2. You allow the buried emotions are caused by your memory, so taking responsibility for the memory, not the event, allows for true permanent healing.
  3. In the revealing of the memory, you open up to the possibility of release forever from the event.  Then the pattern stops.
  4. If you don’t do it, you keep the pattern going.  So, what have you got to lose?  Just painful memories from the past that keep haunting you.

Freedom from the past is worth every bit of pain you have to go through. Otherwise, you will continue to be affected by the past subconsciously and it will color every relationship you have.  I have found that it is  time to love myself and give myself the gift of healing, so that I don’t have to repeat these painful memories again.  It is a gift of love to myself.

It is easy to release the cause of your pain, once it is staring at you and you can see it all clearly for the first time.  You will be given the opportunity to  forgive any time you feel the twinge of anger, the need to judge someone, the desire to hate, or to get revenge.

The path of least resistance is to accept that growth and healing is inevitable.  You do want freedom from pain, and it makes sense then to allow it to occur.

Don’t resist evil.  Don’t resist pain, don’t resist!  Don’t judge yourself for having learned this way, the experience of healing is worth it.

Now it is obvious to me why every major spiritual teaching is based upon this one thing: forgiveness.  IT WORKS if you work it.


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Laughing at Fear

I just put together a bunch of new blog topics and this was at the top of my list. I wanted to share with you how easy it can be to release fear. The Course gives this line as the entire reason for the dream of separation or the descent into hell: “you had a tiny, mad idea at which the Son of God remembered not to laugh.”

Remembered not, or forgot. Remembered not, which means you, the Son, remembered what did not happen. You remember the fall, the schism, the pain of loss, the moment where pain replaced joy and the kingdom was a forgotten memory. This is really important so I have to emphasize what you remembered not…that you remembered not to laugh!

You remembered only to take it seriously and to believe it and judge yourself for it and harp on it and make it all a real experience. And then you felt so guilty, you projected the guilt out away from you onto the only thing you could find, your body. And then other bodies you found around you, Adam blames Eve for the fall because she is the only one there. Then you became so afraid that God would punish you, so you punished yourself for this so called act.

All the while, you kept the little secret to yourself that you feel so guilty about and you keep it hidden so far down inside you, you would feel just terrible if anyone ever found out. This is what drives people to sedate all the time! Yet, when you uncover the whole reason you feel so bad about yourself, you feel the incredible pain of the guilt and self-hatred you subconsciously harbor within yourself…then something can begin to open up. You have simply had enough of it. Deep resentment, deep shame and guilt. It is time to surrender.

So, for however long you have been trying to hide and not resolve your guilt, by projecting it, stop now. Take the pain back to its source, your own mind. And finally allow the solution to occur within you. Resolve the riddle of yourself as a separate being and realize one thing: It isn’t true, you are not guilty because the dream had no real effects.

The guilt of suffering and pain lasts until you just expose the cause and let it all go! A miracle occurs, a shift in perception. A realization, a remembering of the love you once knew as your communication with your Creator. You forgot to laugh, you thought He had abandoned you. No, dear one, He didn’t. He is right there inside you and always has been.

Now, what can possibly be so important and serious? I know you took it very seriously, sure, so did I. But every error is undone in exactly the same way: the love and light shines on your idea of separation, and lightens it to the point where it disappears into the nothingness from which it came.

Isn’t it time, right here and now to begin to laugh at yourself? It was a tiny, mad idea, it had no effects. God did not do it to you, you did not do it to you. You can laugh now. It was a crazy idea that has no possibility of being true and never did. It is futile to continue to think you have to resolve an unreal problem. That is why awakening is a recognition, not a change at all.

This attack upon yourself is old and tired and never brought you any relief whatsoever. It isn’t hard to let it all go, it is the easiest thing in the world, it is the relinquishment of the underpinnings of your dream. It is your awakening.

The simplicity of this idea strikes me each time I feel the release that comes with the “aha!” I was doing it to myself all along and I can stop right here and now!

Love is all around you, within you, and IS YOU. You are not ever going to be able to be anything but YOU. Laugh at the idea you could change a perfect, whole idea in the Mind of God!

Monica


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Defenseless

Healing is release from fear. The certainty that fear is not real is the premise upon which all healing rests. The one thing you never want to do is relinquish fear entirely because then, you, as you have constructed yourself, wouldn’t exist.

You can’t really let go of fear, you can recognize that you made it up and then it ceases to trouble you. Because if you made up fear, you can decide not to believe in it. You can literally dissolve the error where it began. Because you think it happens TO YOU, you think you are a victim of fear. But when you accept that you are the cause, you have a solution to the problem. A REAL solution.

Do you like being at the whim of your emotions and other people’s emotions? This is where you can truly exercise your power of mind. You do not have to listen to fear thoughts. They don’t help you. They hinder you. They make you blind, deaf and dumb.

Listen to the still small voice within you that is always there underneath the machinations of egoic thinking. It is reminding you of YOU, of your reality, of the unceasing love that you are. Of course you have forgotten this, but it isn’t possible that you could drown it out with your fear thoughts forever. Because the truth is you are not your fears. You are something completely different.

I recently gave up the idea of having an external source of inspiration. I have found that it is a trap. The inspiration or revelation is constantly occurring within me. I often have my NOW covered over with fear, so I can’t hear it. But it doesn’t mean it isn’t there. Nothing real can be threatened. Nothing unreal exists.

Perhaps a brother can help you see something you can’t. But be sure you are asking the right question. Self-doubt is very insistent and a loving brother can sometimes be the thing you need the most. A heart felt response to someone in pain is the antidote. Fear can be overcome. Resentment is overcome by looking at it, uncovering the fear underneath, and asking for help. That is why the 12 Step Program is miraculous and really works. The 5th Step is a holy encounter with a brother who is willing to sit and listen to your inventory and hold the space for your recovery. It is a holy relationship.

That is why surrender is key and defenselessness works. But you won’t realize this until you have admitted defeat. I don’t know how that will happen to you, but I do know that when you really want a new experience, you will have it. Love is certain, fear is nothing. There is nothing in between. The healing power of love is beyond belief and beyond this world.

Does this help you?

All healing is a release of judgment and fear. Fear of loving yourself and your brother so totally that you forget the separation entirely.

It isn’t easy, but once you have the peace that comes from knowing who you are, and that you aren’t the sum of your fears or your resentments, this pearl worth any price, dawns upon you and you won’t care how you found it. Love is literally all there is. Everything is pointing to it, is resolving in it.

Defenselessness is the only requirement. Come with an open mind to have a new experience. Something you have perhaps dreamed of, but didn’t believe was possible.

Jesus taught “resist not evil”. Be defenseless. Find those blocks, see them for what they are, then the miracle can occur and you will discover that your mind is what love is and even death cannot obliterate it.

I love you

Monica